People Pleasing
People-pleasing is a pattern of putting others’ needs, comfort, or approval above your own. It can show up as always saying yes, over-apologizing, avoiding conflict, or seeking constant reassurance that you are “enough”. While it often starts as a way to keep relationships smooth or feel safe, over time it can lead to exhaustion, resentment, and a diminished sense of self.
For many neurodivergent people, people-pleasing develops as a strategy for navigating environments that feel unpredictable or demanding or for masking differences to fit in socially. It can make it hard to recognize your own needs and values and create cycles where you prioritize others at the expense of your well-being.
People-pleasing is not a flaw. It is a learned pattern often rooted in past experiences and coping strategies. Understanding it is the first step toward finding balance and building relationships that feel mutual, supportive, and authentic.
How We Can Help
At Willow Creek Counselling, we provide a safe, affirming space to explore the roots of people-pleasing and how it shows up in your life. Together, we can
Identify patterns and triggers that lead to saying yes when you want to say no
Explore underlying beliefs about worth, approval, and self-value
Develop strategies for setting boundaries in ways that feel safe and sustainable
Practice communicating your needs clearly and confidently
Build self-compassion to counter harsh self-criticism or guilt
Explore how neurodivergent traits and experiences may have shaped people-pleasing tendencies
Therapy is a collaborative process. We work at a pace that feels right for you, helping you create space for authenticity and balance. The goal is not to stop caring for others but to care for yourself in a way that feels sustainable, respectful, and affirming.